26 April 2017

Wondering Wednesday: "Only Three Outfits for a Single Woman???"

Portrait of a Young Woman - Elisabeth Vigee-Le Brun - Public Domain
Dear Ladies,

Reader Nena asked today's question, based on last week's Wondering Wednesday.

For any woman, the key to forming a versatile wardrobe is the clever combining of separates, so even though one has few pieces, one may combine them in a large number of ways.  

Single women, because most of them work away from home, do need a separate work wardrobe, but the rule of three can apply to keep the clothing expense to a minimum.  Three jackets or cardigans, three tops, and three skirts go a long way toward meeting a working woman’s wardrobe needs. These nine pieces combine to form twenty-seven outfits, if the colors and textures work together.  

What about clothes for dates?  The etiquette of dating/courtship varies greatly based on location and culture, so I can only write from the customs here in the United States.  Here, most dates are  casual: picnics, sporting events, activities with each other’s families, outdoor activities, and other similar functions.  Today, hardly anyone under the age of sixty does the “dinner and a movie” date that was popular when I was in my teens and twenties, so a great number of dressy clothes are not necessary for dating.  Three tops and three skirts make nine outfits, which would seem to cover quite a few dates before becoming repetitive.  I don’t believe that most men care about the clothing that women wear, as long as the outfits are attractive, modest, and appropriate to the activity.

I believe that many men fear marrying someone who wastes money on expensive clothes and marrying someone who only sees them as meal tickets or means to an end. Showing men that we value the womanly art of thrift can help to alleviate those fears. 

Buying expensive clothes isn’t sinful or anything like that, if the clothing can be easily afforded, but how we spend our money shows what we value.  Answering the question “Why do I dress the way I do?” helps to clarify values and priorities.  

I hope that my little “woman-to-woman” ideas have helped.

Agape always,
Cynthia

2 comments:

Nena Karrova said...

What can i say???? thank you for your post-you are a fascinating teacher!!!And i thank God for helping me find you(through the fascinating womanhood blog by the way)

Since i make good money and i dont have any debts or other obligations,i spend a lot of money for my wardrobe:not for very expensive clothes but for a variety of them.Because i believe that it is not appropriate for people (especially men) to see me with the same outfit more than once!!!And every time my male friends see me wearing a new dress (because i love dresses) they admire me and say "ohhhh how beautiful you are,what a beautiful dress"!!!but now i understand (with the help of fascinating womanhood principles) that men should not admire you,but love you and want to shelter you!!!but if you look high maintenance like i do,how can they protect you and provide for you???a million thanks again!!!

So,here is another question:on a pinterest pin about "Pride and Prejudice" you say that Elisabeth is the ideal woman and Jane comes second!But Jane is the angelic one who sees good in all people,Elisabeth is a bit masculine in her way of thinking and acting:she speaks her mind,a bit sarcastic and unconventional!

Thanks again and a lot of "Αγάπη" to you!!!

Cynthia Berenger said...

Dear Nena,

I appreciate your kind words about my teaching. Thank you.

It seems to me, anyway, that the Ideal Woman stands up for herself, knows when to be assertive. Elizabeth does this when she says to Lady Catherine, "He is a gentleman and I am a gentleman's daughter." Jane, however, has a tendency to allow people to walk all over her; among those people are her new sisters-in-law, and Mr. Bennet predicts that Jane and Bingley's servants will take advantage of them.

I hope that my little "woman-to-woman" ideas have helped.

Agape always,
Cynthia